Insecurities.

We all have them. They are the things that make us uncomfortable, they are the things that keep our guard up and most of all, they are the things that we know, that other people don't . It's safe to say that there are people out there that feel insecure about many things and use their past as an excuse for everything. The question is, why would anyone use their past as an excuse for their insecurities? The answer is fear.

We are all programmed to be scared and frightened and that's okay. This is what makes us human and how we always yearn for some sort of perfection in our lives. We all desire for life to run smoothly but reality is, life is always going to be good and bad. You can't always be too optimistic or pessimistic about life because at the end of the day, you are making the choice of how you want to live it. 

People get anxious when they are faced with something unfamiliar and this can cause their insecurities to come into play. For example, do you remember when you first went into High School? The transition between Primary School and High School can be pretty challenging for some. I remember being so scared on my first day. I didn't know what I was supposed to do, I was in a school full of strangers and the environment was all new to me. I hesitated because I began questioning if I was a person that would make new friends, I started to have doubts about my first day and already, I was feeling insecure about myself. 

People sometimes feel that they are out-of-place and don't belong with their insecurities. For people that let their insecurities in the way, they are usually withdrawn and conservative from what they share with other people. The fear of rejection, the fear of mistrust and the fear of history repeating itself. This is what makes us scared sometimes, this why we keep things to ourselves because we have stories that will remain untold.

Although, sharing some parts of your life journey to someone isn't so bad. There are some aspects of yourself where you'd like to keep open and some where you'd like to keep closed. But in order to trust others, you need to learn to trust yourself. You shouldn't be ashamed of your insecurities at all but if you think they play a major role in your life, don't let it. Life is full of risks and from this we will continue to learn and grow from what we have gone through. The things that challenged us and made us who we are.  We shouldn't let our insecurities "protect" us because sometimes, we need to open up our guard. This is what makes us real.